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Casual Friday Dressing: Full Circle

Casual Friday Dressing: Full Circle
When my oldest daughter was in her teens, she was accepted into the ballet program of one of the most renowned performing arts high schools in the country. But it wasn’t as easy or wonderful as it might sound. Very few dancers make it in the rarified world of classical ballet, and if you aren’t blessed with a certain body type, similar to that required of top models or gymnasts, the classes and the competition can be grueling.
Yay for construction at our office and blue rubbish bins
Elle top ~ Kohl’s clearance years ago
Skinny jeans ~ Loft on sale
Booties ~ Ross Dress for Less
1928 three-way locket pendent ~ 20+ years old
Assorted bracelets
After a ninth grade year at the arts high school that was tough on both of us, I wanted to pull her out of the program. But she wasn’t ready, and her teachers were encouraging her to switch to modern dance. She only wanted to be a ballet dancer. I made the difficult choice to let her return for the tenth grade. At the end of it, she asked to transfer to public high school, along with several of her friends from the ballet program.
Looking back, I’m glad I did not make the choice to leave for her, because I think if I had, for the rest of her life, I would have been the one who destroyed her dreams of a career in classical ballet.
My fave piece of old costume jewelry. I love all the pleats and covered buttons on this shirt.
What is really amazing about her life’s journey is that last week she interviewed with the New York City Ballet, and was hired on the spot. Not as a dancer of course, but as a stitcher in their costume shop, an extremely difficult position to find anywhere in the country. Is she over the moon? Yes. Do I get teary-eyed when I think about how full circle her life has come? Yes.
These are the kinda dorky poses I have a special gift for, but you can see the covered buttons on the shooties.
During her second year of college to become a stage manager, she discovered she’s a whiz with a sewing machine. Her logical brain, which has always breezed through complex topics like advanced mathematics, physics, and engineering, took like a duck does to water to the ability to re-create period patterns, make new patterns, drape cloth, and solve complex problems in the creation of unusual costumes, like stretchy hair suits. She loves to “build” costumes (you can see her portfolio here), and throughout the last seven years has had the opportunity to travel all over the country to work in professional theaters, even making new flying monkeys for Wicked on Broadway.
For some reason, I think I’m a Power Puff Girl.
And now she’s married both her love of costume construction and dance with a job that suits her perfectly, at one of the finest ballet companies in the country that makes all of its costumes in-house. She still dances and has danced plenty since high school, even showing up to one summer theater job to sew costumes, and instead dancing the role of Mr. Mistoffeles in a production of Cats when the dancer hired did not show up. It is very cool to see your own kid whip out those 30-odd pirouettes that highlight the magical cat’s role in the musical.
She’s come full circle with her art, and landed in the place she was told in high school she could never aspire to, doing something different than she ever imagined she’d be doing in high school, but still a critical and creative part of the ballet world she’s always loved.

Are you doing something very different than what you thought you’d do when you grew up?

Addendum: The Teen turned Sweet Sixteen today, in the hospital, but is supposed to get released to come home in a few hours. Her life journey to date has been tough but she’s a fighter, and I can’t wait to see her go out and conquer the world.

20 Responses to Casual Friday Dressing: Full Circle

  1. Congrats to your daughter and a wonderful opportunity! Best wishes to your other daughter as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Loving your yellow pants too. Have a great weekend!

  2. Love the bright yellow jeans. Like a ray of sunshine. Major congrats to both your daughters. The ballet job is an incredible accomplishment. I do hope you can share some more of her work with us.

    I'm sorry the Teen had to return to the hospital, but I'm glad that she does have the treatments available to her. Hopefully she'll get to go home quickly.

  3. My dear what an incredible post…I truly had chills reading it. I know what it's like to try to put what seems like a life time of love and nurturing into a single post…but you did…i heard it..and felt it. congratulations to the both of you!

    I actually popped over here to first say…i send you thoughts, love and prayers and congrats on a 16th birthday for you and your teen! i do so admire you my dear… to keep all of those balls in the air!

    i am sure you know how loved you are in this 'blog world' we inhabit…but oh to have a shout out from the iconic Judith of the Style Crone…what a well deserved honor my dear! Both of you have such heart in adversity…and wisdom…and humor…i am inspired always by the both of you!

    much love to you and all of yours!

  4. Oh Lynne, you are gorgeous as ever and I appreciate the detail of the echoing covered buttons in today's outfit.

    Congrats to your eldest daughter on her new position – what an amazing and accomplished person she is! I really enjoyed your links to her incredible portfolio and her grad celebration. Also, Happy Birthday to The Teen! Fingers crossed that getting sprung will stick this time, and that 16 is upwards from here.

    P.S. I love that vibrant dumpster-blue – makes a great backdrop, particularly with the rust highlights! ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Happy Birthday to The Teen!!! I hope you have a fabulous year ahead! And Lynne, you look wonderful in these skinny jeans with the Elle top. No one has ever made a garbage bin look so attractive! Also, a huuuge congratulations to The Oldest. I can't imagine the thrill of marrying your passions like this – "if you can make it there you can make it anywhere."

  6. That is so so SO cool Lynne. Congrats to your oldest! What a cool mesh of her passions and her talents. I, for one, am doing NOTHING like I thought I would. It's funny because my Grandmother used to tell me to be a lawyer when I grew up. I told her no way, that's boring! I wanted to be a writer. Now I work in the law field. And a write a blog. Weird how things work out. Love those yellow jeans girl!

  7. That is such great news for your elder daughter, and what an interesting story about her route to this new job. There is a lesson in there for all of us about trying, working hard, making your own decisions about continuing/changing tack, and finding alternative routes. I wish her every success.
    Happy 16th to your Teen, hope she is doing OK.
    And when "life gets tough, wear yellow jeans" seems a good motto! You look lovely, as always. xxxx

  8. Lynne, what a great life story. Congratulations to your daughter for capturing her a dream job. Most are not lucky enough to do that in life. I'll check on the links.
    Happy Birthday to The Teen on her Sweet Sixteen. Hope she's feeling better soon, but I know it's an on going battle.
    Your yellow pants are great against that blue dumpster. Just the kind of back drop you'd see in a fashion magazine!

  9. Many congratulations to your costume designer daughter! What talent she has (love the A. McQueen dress in the earlier pst you linked to). Glad to hear also that the Teen is coming home.

    And more great bright trousers! The ruffled(pleated?) top goes so well with them.

  10. Wow, how wonderful for your daughter! That sounds outstanding!

    Boo to the Teen being back in the hospital though.

    Love the yellow pants though, hope they are bringing you some sunshine in some darker days!

  11. That is awesome!! My hat is off to her, and to you, for that takes hard work and determination and a stick-to-it-ness that many of us DO NOT have! I wish her the best success!


  12. This post just gave me goosebumps. I would be "bustin' my buttons" with pride over the accomplishment for your oldest. I'm going to go peruse the portfolio. It sounds like her background helps to think of clothing three-dimensionally and having danced herself has got to help with the design. Tell her congratulations for me.

    I hope that the Teen's birthday was as happy as it could possibly be.

  13. I'm ashamed to admit that I am so behind … I am desperately trying to catch up on your blog and whats been happening and I feel as though I lost the most important pages of the book … sigh! I'm catching up.

    This story is inspiring and congratulations to your daughter on her amazing accomplishment and I wish you happiness in her new position.

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