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The Hardest Thing to Do…

The Hardest Thing to Do…

…was, surprisingly, not getting most of my hair cut off last Monday. I was surprised I like it so much, and feel so comfortable going way shorter. The Teen ixnayed shaving my head to show support if she loses her hair, and I wanted a zero maintenance hairstyle for the long months in a hospital in another city. This short haircut was a big deal for someone who likes to hide behind her hair, but I never cried or got upset. Instead, I feel happy every time I catch a glimpse of it in a mirror. My short do has more styling options than any other haircut I’ve had in many decades, and I am so loving wearing earrings that peeps can actually see.

For those of you who’ve asked, here’s the reveal, and my new Facebook profile pic.
I’ma confess – not washed for six days and still looks the same. See, zero maintenance.
The hardest thing to do, for The Absent-Minded Professor and me, has been admitting that we need help through The Teen’s bone marrow transplant journey. I’m ending a rather surreal week, acknowledging that I don’t have a job or health insurance, we have the responsibility for an added residence, not counting the bone marrow unit, and all that we’ve sacrificed may not result in a cure. I know all of these things, but they haven’t really sunk in. 
We have a social worker, too. Usually, someone in our family cries when we meet with her, but we love her. She recommended that we set up a fund-raising site for The Teen and our family. We didn’t want to, because we’re private, and we don’t generally ask for help or talk about money. But we can’t deny that the bone marrow transplant expenses we’re facing far exceed our current resources. 
The Children’s Organ Transplant Association (COTA) is the highly recommended non-profit group we are working with. COTA has a long history of helping transplant families and does not take fees from funds raised. Donations are tax-deductible, and the only expenses reimbursed to families must be allowed under federal guidelines and must be related to the bone marrow transplant. COTA also raises awareness of the desperate need for organ and tissue donors. 
The link to The Teen’s COTA fund-raising site is, or you can reach it by clicking her photo at the upper right hand corner of this blog. We know times are tough, and any amount, no matter what the size, will help us get through the toughest and hopefully, most amazing journey of our life. Please feel free to share the link. We are also eager to talk about the shortage of organ and tissue donors, especially minority donors. You can also follow our journey at her CaringBridge site, keeceesunnysite.
P.S. I’m taking my short, fiery, unwashed hair over to the beautiful Patti’s blog, Not Dead Yet Style, for Visible Monday. The amazing and diverse fashionistas who participate inspire me and remind me to just be who I am, which is solely a maxi dress/skirt wearer these days. Hospitals are freezing, and the bone marrow unit is no exception. 

30 Responses to The Hardest Thing to Do…

  1. Fabulous red pixie! And you shine in it, Lynne. Best thoughts to you and the family as you make you way through this journey. Much love – Patti

  2. You're going through an incredibly rough patch and are entitled to do whatever the fuck you want. Wear your hair any way you want. It does look fierce. You're a BAMF.

  3. Your new haircut is gorgeous! Seriously…it is so flattering on you. You may never want to go back.
    You know our hearts, thoughts, and prayers are with you and your family. I'll post your fund raising link on my blog right now.

  4. Your hair looks great and your strength and dedication is inspiring. I am thinking of you and your family so much and sending my best thoughts. Much love!!!!!

  5. Your hair is so great! I can't believe you haven't washed it in six days. It's definitely what you need right now. I wish you luck, strength, miracles and joy.

  6. WOW! Your hair is awesome short. And why both washing frequently when it looks this fantastic?
    I am glad things are moving ahead with The Teen but sad about the toll it's having all round. At least there's hope for a huge reward. Thanks for those links!

  7. What a fantastically courageous way of showing your support for the teen. You look incredible, I love your short hair so much, it shows your glorious smile and amazing bone structure.
    Go on, show us your maxi!
    Thinking of you lots! xxx

  8. You look absolutely stunning Lynne!!! I love it. Being able to show off your earrings is a good reason to get the chop ;-).

    I think about you, the teen and your family and the challenge you are facing and pray for strength as you face the challenge.

    Showing a little support from my side of the world and am trusting that I'll be able to add more soon.

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  9. I have already told you how much I love this new hairstyle on you but I'll say it again – you look fantastic. I think it's a fiery, powerful look that is just perfect for the battle you are waging – you are saying "I'm fierce and I'm here to fight!" Hugs and good thoughts to you all as usual!

  10. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
    Been thinking about you and yours lately. Keeping y'all in prayer.

    the new 'do is FABULOUS!! Love the bright red and wow–six days and it still looks amazing??

  11. I'm sure having your short hair right now is perfect. Showering is pretty much last on your list during a time like this.

    I hope that things go smoothly and it all turns out in the end.

    I will be having surgery on the same day and will be sending good thoughts and strength your way.


  12. wow
    that is quite a change, but it looks great
    as I have been going through an illness with one of my sons I have realized that asking people for help actually helps them. THey never know what to do or say and are thrilled to be called upon

  13. Once you go short, you'll never go back! I love the new 'do – you are fabulous! Sending good vibes to the Teen and your fam (furry and otherwise). Hugs!

  14. Love your hair. Nothing beats cute, short hair when you are super busy … it also suits you very well, and especially with that great color!
    Thinking of you kids, and will wait patiently for your ultimate good news. I just know it.

  15. Oh Lynne. I just bloody well love you. Your new hair is beautiful, it's such a strong statement about who and where you are right now. LOVE. And please show us your maxis, you know I am ALL about a maxi.
    Please know that I am thinking of you and The Teen and all your family very very often and wishing hoping demanding that all will be well.
    As I said – LOVE. xxxxxxx

  16. Lynne, you look stunning! And your attitude and internal beauty makes you even more stunning! I am hoping for a cure, hoping for a cure!! I am hopping over to look at the donation site!


  17. Love your new hair and low maintenance is the way to go! Thank you for sharing your courageous journey and I'm right there with you all the way. I found blogging to be a lifeline during a time of crisis. Sending best wishes to you, the Teen and your entire family.

  18. Hi Lynne, I realised I had admired your beautiful new hair do on my phone (where commenting goes baaad) but never commented when back home. You and your family, most of all KeeCee, are in my thoughts at the moment. I have been sending you beams of light and all the positive thinking I can drum up xx

  19. Your pixie look is on red hot and means business. Wishing you and your family the absolute best as you move through this trial by fire time. Love, love, love.

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Lynne J. DeVenny, N.C. State Bar Certified Paralegal

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Lynne DeVenny is a North Carolina State Bar Certified Paralegal with over 27 years of experience working on complex litigation cases, including medical malpractice, personal injury, workers’ compensation, and Social Security disability.

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